Sometimes in the dark of the night, I visit my conscience To see if it is still breathing, For its dying a slow death Every day.
When I pay for a meal in a fancy place. An amount which is perhaps the monthly income Of the guard who holds the door open. And quickly I shrug away that thought, It dies a little.
When I buy vegetables from the vendor, And his son “chhotu” smilingly weighs the potatoes, Chhotu, a small child, who should be studying at school. I look the other way It dies a little.
When I am decked up in a designer dress, A dress that cost a bomb And I see a woman at the crossing, In tatters,trying unsuccessfully to save her dignity. And I immediately roll up my window. It dies a little.
When I buy expensive gifts for my children, On return, I see half clad children, With empty stomach and hungry eyes, Selling toys at red light I try to save my conscience by buying some, yet It dies a little.
When my sick maid sends her daughter to work, Making her bunk school I know I should tell her to go back. But I look at the loaded sink and dirty dishes, And I tell myself that is just for a couple of days It dies a little.
When I hear about a rape or a murder of a child, I feel sad, yet a little thankful that it’s not my child. I can not look at myself in the mirror, It dies a little.
When people fight over caste creed and religion. I feel hurt and helpless I tell myself that my country is going to the dogs, I blame the corrupt politicians, Absolving myself of all responsibilities It dies a little.
When my city is choked. Breathing is dangerous in the smog ridden metropolis, I take my car to work daily , Not taking the metro,not trying car pool. One car won’t make a difference, I think It dies a little.
So when in the dark of the night, I visit my conscience And find it still breathing I am surprised. For, with my own hands Daily, bit by bit, I kill it, I bury it.
About 6 months ago, my neighbor asked us if we wouldn’t mind sharing our Wi-Fi password. We decided to give it to him because it wouldn’t cost us anything extra, and because we got along with him. Yesterday, as I was getting out of the car, the neighbor was at his door, getting ready to come outside. I stopped to talk a bit as he held the door open. He happily told me he now had Netflix. At that, jokingly I said: ′′I work hard, I barely have time to watch TV, but, if you could lend us your password to watch some shows, we’d appreciate it “. A voice was heard in the distance, inside the house. It was his wife, ′′We can’t give the password to them, because I’m the one who pays the bill and I can’t share it.” The man apologized and I said it was no problem. We kept talking about other things, and as I left, he stayed working outside. When I happened to look outside a little while later, I noticed the man’s wife come outside. She seemed very nervous and upset. They both went into the house. After a few minutes, he and his wife came to my door to tell me the Wi-Fi password wasn’t working anymore. I looked at them and said, ′′ I changed my password, because it’s me paying the bill and I can’t share it “. The wife turned red and tried to say something, but I said, ′′Ma’am, I have my network and you have your Netflix, everything is fine and everyone is happy”. They turned around and left. They never spoke to me again.
This story isn’t mine, but here’s the lesson I learned from it:
Friendship must be mutual.
Love must be mutual.
Affection must be mutual. In 2020 I intend to return silence with silence, absences with absences, affection with affection, friendship with friendship and loyalty with loyalty. No more one-sided feelings. Feelings must be mutual.
Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself.Trying to become smaller, quieter, less sensitive, less opinionated, less needy. Because I did not want to be a burden. I didn’t want to push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years. I sacrificed my self for the sake of making other people happy. And for years I sufferd. But I m tired of suffering and I m done shrinking . It is not my job to change who I m in order to become someone else ‘s idea of a worthwhile human being. I m worthwhile not beacause other people think I m. But beacause I exist and therefore I matter. My voice matters. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval. I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable . Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose honor my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met.” “I CHOOSE ME”
At the naughty age of 50… We had our school reunion…one of my friend mentioned – look at the girls..they are still looking so beautiful 😍…even today,I skipped a heart beat looking at my crush ..😀. But the boys are looking so old…many are bald with protruding tummies & shrunken faces …😔
Made me think…what makes a person beautiful? Is it just looks?
Obviously it’s nice to look good…it may boost ones confidence & social interactions …but is it enough?
I guess there is a vast difference between ‘looking’ beautiful & ‘being’ beautiful…
A lady who has disfigured her body during pregnancy …now she is struggling with her complexes… ..but yet she is the source of unconditional love for family …is beautiful…
A bald, obese man who is facing multiple professional challenges…yet he is the source of rock solid support for the family…is a beautiful person…
A working lady …stressing herself out with balancing work & home… still finds time for her ill mother in law neglecting her taunts…is beautiful 😊
The fragrance of love & care spread by them is far superior to any strong perfume …
Eventually the beauty of body will fade one day…but the beauty of soul will not…
Personally….how you ‘ look’ matters for first few minutes…but how you ‘are’ ..matters lifetime…😊
No tuition fees… No maintenance fees… No school no fees.. Online class???? Ohh that’s a joke.
With the whole COVID-19 situation, a lot of teachers are facing a very unique challenge.
No, it’s not the saree challenge, nor its the motherhood challenge.
The challenge demanded that they go through digital transformation overnight. Teachers said: Challenge accepted (They hid their tech-fears behind a simple smile because children’s learning is at stake)
The challenge demanded that they have to open their house for public viewing Teachers said: Challenge accepted. (They suppressed their inhibitions, foregone their privacy because children’s learning is at stake)
The challenge demanded that they have to make do with limited or no resources. Teachers said: Challenge accepted. (They started working overtime to plan for teaching without any resources because children’s learning is at stake)
The challenge demanded that they may not be paid their full salaries. Teachers said: Challenge accepted. (They started worrying deep in their heart about their own families. But, they were undeterred because children’s learning is at stake)
The challenge demanded that they may need to teach while 30-odd parents are watching over their shoulder judging them for their every little move including but not limited to their voice modulation, pronunciation, grammar, knowledge, love & warmth Teachers said: Challenge accepted. (It didn’t matter because the children’s learning is at stake)
My appreciation and respect for these relentless fighters can’t be expressed in words. I want to salute all the gurus across the world who continued to take on the challenges that were piled upon them because children’s learning is at stake and they care!
Kudos to the teaching fraternity who lead by example…. Salute to your relentless spirit… 😊🙏👍👏
What a Trap this covid is turning out to be. Cases increasing But people used to it and getting restless The number of people out on the streets has increased considerably. Most without masks…. What guts.
The vaccine is still months away to say the least. Cases are closing in at neighbouring buildings…. Wonder if it will be our building next…. hope not.
But somehow, it seems as if we can only delay the inevitable….
Man, this one is a game changer. Lucky those who have had it and come out clean. They now have anti bodies in them hence they are safe.
We have lost so many. The world has lost so many more. Everywhere there is Under reporting for sure. And the number of those being tested is also so less compared to our population. If we test many more, we will perhaps realise we have lakhs of cases more than reported.
But the panic is over People have learned to live with the fear. Home quarantine has helped ease the load on hospitals. Not everyone needs to be admitted . That’s some relief.
But life as we had begun to get used to, the usual hustle and bustle, the fast pace, parties and nite outs, dinners and gatherings, those big fat weddings, the weekend cinema, ipl cricket at the stadiums, music concerts, bars and restaurants, holiday trips all over india and abroad….gosh allready a thing of the past.
We all seem More grounded now The mad rush has settled. The planet needed it We needed it. Mindless madness….and we had all gotten used to it.
Now time to introspect. To stand and stare. To chill.
2020 is eventually become all zeros 0000.
But inspite of it all, one thing never changes….. LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL Keep the faith Stay safe Stay happy stay blessed
Watch Breathe 2 on amazon and Andekhi on sony liv. Yeh sab kabhi theatre me nahi milega😜😜
Yesterday I received a friend request from a young attractive guy. ..about 19-20 years old… I was curious. I wanted to know why someone that young wanted to be my fb friend. So I accepted it. Then he started sending me private messages.. He called me beautiful. He asked my age. I’m not a liar so I told him and reminded him I’m quite a bit his senior. And I let him talk a bit cuz (truth be told) flattery ain’t all bad. 😉 We kept chatting for a while and within a short time, he asked if we could talk about ‘adult things’. I said ok. Then he replied with a face like 👿. He said ‘thank you babe, you start.”
So I did! I told him adult things like I have arthritis and my knees hurt badly. My back acts up when it is cold outside. I explained that I have crazy insomnia. Didn’t forget to tell him that I have a pacemaker. And of course I told him about the laxatives. Can’t forget that. Didn’t forget to tell him that I have a good quality denture I was as honest as I could be about ADULT THINGS but I don’t understand why he blocked me 😳😳🤓🤓😆😆😆😆😆😆
😷Different types of masks (to educate non medical and non health workers) Myths and Facts about “Masks”😷
Q-1 What are the common types of masks.?😷 Ans – 1 Cloth mask 2 Surgical mask
Q-2 What are the Respirators.? Ans – N- 95 N- 99 N- 100 are the respirators.
Q-3 What is the difference between mask and respirator.?😷 Ans – Mask has loose fit, it doesn’t seal nose & mouth snugly. During respiration air moves along the edges of the mask, while respirator has tight seal & most of the times air passes only through its material after filtration.
Q-4 Are all respirator masks r same.?😷 Ans- No, respirators r graded according to their filtration efficiency. According to the used filter type According to the type of materials used & additional features They r of different types.
Q-5 What is the efficiency grading.?😷 Ans – According to the efficiency of filtration these r usually graded as- 95, 99 & 100. Means these respirator masks r capable of traping 95%, 99% & 99.9% of particles, smaller up to the 0.3 micron size. This grading can also be done as P1 (FFP1) – 80% P2 (FFP2) – 95% P3 (FFP3) – 99.95% Filtration efficiency.
Q-6 What is the N, R or P meaning written over mask.?😷 Ans – N – not oil proof R – oil resistant P – oil proof (Eg. N 95 is not oil proof)
Q-7 Few repirator masks have valve, what is that.?😷 Ans – That valve is nothing but a simple exhalation port with one way valve mechanism, it reduces effort of expiration, reduce heat inside the mask, dissipate humidity & reduce co2 the amount of from the dead space of mask.
Q-8 When to use surgical masks.?😷 Ans – Surgical mask or procedure mask is the most common mask used by health workers. It is not designed to protect wearer from inhaling the air born bacteria & viruses. It is used to block only large particle droplets, splashes, sprays or splatter. It also reduce the exposure of wearer’s saliva & respiratory secretions to others. Surgical mask also remind wearer not to touch their mouth/nose which could otherwise transfer virus/bacteria after having touched a contaminated surface.
Q-9 What is the filtration capacity of surgical mask.?😷 Ans – It can vary between 10-90% according to the manufacturer.
Q-10 How one can assure about the quality of mask.?😷 Ans – Mask should be certified by the NIOSH (National institute for occupational safety & health) Or NPPTL (National personal protective technology laboratory)
Q-11 Does cloth mask effective.?😷 Ans – Cloth is a wooven material thus pore size is bigger than surgical mask which is made up of non wooven polypropylene material thus cloth mask is less effective than surgical mask in terms of filtration efficiency.
Q-12 Does extra layer improve efficacy of cloth mask.?😷 Ans – No, it’s not advisable. Each extra layer adds only 2% of extra protection on the cost of comfort .
Q-13 Can surgical/cloth mask be used routinely.?😷 Ans – Yes these can be used routinely. Few studies done on normal population concluded that the use of simple mask can decrease the incidence of flu up to 75%. Few east asian countries following this practice of routine use of mask.
Q-14 Can mask be reused?😷 Ans – Cloth mask can be reused after washing.
Surgical mask should be discarded after single use or after soiled
Respirator mask should be discarded when resistance of breathing get increased or get solied. Viruses/bacterias can grow & flourish inside the reused mask.
Q-15 What r the WHO recommendations for using masks.?😷 Ans –
For the normal population, any type of mask is not required, maintaining the social distance & hand hygiene are the sufficient.
Sick person should wear surgical mask.
Any person who is taking care of sick person should also wear the surgical mask.
N 95 mask should be used by the person who is potential to get expose with the respiratory secretions of the infected patient. eg… During the Endotracheal intubation, CPR, Ventilation, Bronchoscopy & Tracheostomy.
If your company is still operating, be very grateful! WHY?
Victoria’s Secret declared bankruptcy.
Zara closed 1,200 stores.
La Chapelle withdrew 4391 stores.
Chanel is discontinued.
Hermes is discontinued.
Patek Philippe discontinued production.
Rolex discontinued production.
The world’s luxury industry has crumpled.
Nike has a total of $23 billion US dollars preparing for the second stage of layoffs.
Gold’s gym filed for bankruptcy
The founder of AirBnb said that because of pandemic, 12 years of efforts were destroyed in 6 weeks.
Even Starbucks also announced to permanently close their 400 stores.
WeWork isn’t in a great spot either The list goes on and on!
Under the weight of the new crown pandemic, many giants are facing the crisis of failure. Five months of pandemic created a LOT of debt, and tens of thousands of companies went bankrupt, so the company was seriously replaced.
If your company is still there, and there are no majot pay cuts or layoffs, please treat your company well. Because they are carrying all the tests that you can’t see. And humans are facing the pandemic that cannot be controlled. The second half of 2020, is the challenge of corporate strength.
I remember Robert Kiyosaki said that he prefers to invest in smaller businesses because whenever crisis happens, the first to collapse will be those big companies and brands.
2020 is about survival but those who can exploit it, Will manage to achieve unparalleled heights this year too!
If it’s not going well then just somehow SURVIVE Dont think of hikes in your job, just do well And dont get demotivated