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4 Hormones which determine a human’s happiness. Worth reading

As I sat in the park after my morning walk,
My wife came and slumped next to me.
She had completed her 30-minute jog. We chatted for a while. She said she is not happy in life. I looked up at her sheer disbelief since she seemed to have the best of everything in life.
“Why do you think so?”
“I don’t know. Everyone tells I have everything needed, but I am not happy.
“Then I questioned myself, am I happy? “No,” was my inner voice reply.
Now, that was an eye-opener for me.
I began my quest to understand the real cause of my unhappiness,
I couldn’t find one.

I dug deeper, read articles, spoke to life coaches but nothing made sense.
At last my doctor friend gave me the answer which put all my questions and doubts to rest.
I implemented those and will say I am a lot happier person.

She said, there are four hormones which determine a human’s happiness –

  1. Endorphins,
  2. Dopamine,
  3. Serotonin,
    and
  4. Oxytocin.
    It is important we understand these hormones,
    as we need all four of them to stay happy.

Let’s look at the first hormone the Endorphins.
When we exercise, the body releases Endorphins.
This hormone helps the body cope with the pain of exercising. We then enjoy exercising because these Endorphins will make us happy.
Laughter is another good way of generating Endorphins.
We need to spend 30 minutes exercising every day, read or watch funny stuff to get our day’s dose of Endorphins.

The second hormone is Dopamine.
In our journey of life, we accomplish many little and big tasks, it releases various levels of Dopamine.
When we get appreciated for our work at the office or at home, we feel accomplished and good, that is because it releases Dopamine.
This also explains why most housewives are unhappy since they rarely get acknowledged or appreciated for their work. Once, we join work, we buy a car, a house, the latest gadgets, a new house so forth. In each instance, it releases Dopamine and we become happy.
Now, do we realize why we become happy when we shop?

The third hormone Serotonin is released when we act in a way that benefits others.
When we transcend ourselves and give back to others or to nature or to the society, it releases Serotonin. Even,
providing useful information on the internet like writing information blogs, answering peoples questions on Quora or Facebook groups will generate Serotonin.
That is because we will use our precious time to help other people via our answers or articles.

The final hormone is Oxytocin,
is released when we become close to other human beings.
When we hug our friends or family Oxytocin is released.
The “Jadoo Ki Jhappi” from Munnabhai does really work.
Similarly, when we shake hands or put our arms around someone’s shoulders, various amounts of Oxytocin is released.

So, it is simple, we have to exercise every day to get Endorphins,
we have to accomplish little goals and get Dopamine,
we need to be nice to others to get Serotonin and
finally hug our kids,
friends, and families to get Oxytocin and we will be happy.
When we are happy, we can deal with our challenges and problems better.

Now, we can understand why we need to hug a child who has a bad mood.

So in order to feel more and more happy day by day …

1.Motivate ourselves to play and have some fun
-Endorphins

  1. Appreciate others for any small or big achievements
    -Dopamine
  2. Inculcate sharing habit through you to others
    -Serotonin
  3. Hug your family, friends……
    -Oxytocin

Have a Happy Life.

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What is Love?

Love is when my mom kisses me and says meri bachhi lakhon me ek hai…

Love is when you come back from work and dad says ‘arey beta! aaj bohot der ho gai

Love is when ur bhabhi says ‘ hey hero ladka dekhi hai tere liya, koi aur pasand ho tou bata dena’

Love is when ur brother says ‘ tu tension na le, main hu na tere saath

Love is when you r Moodless and your sis says ‘ chal kahi ghoom kay aatein hai

Love is when ur best friend hugs you and says’ abe tere bagair mazaa nahi aata yaar….

These all are best moments of love…..don’t miss them in life.

Love is not only having a BF or GF.

Love you all who have been a special part of my life………..

Its love,
when a little girl puts her energy to give dad a head massage..

Its love,
when a wife makes tea for husband and takes a sip before him..

Its love,
when a mother gives her son/daughter the best piece of cake..

Its love,
when ur friend holds your hand tightly on a slippery road.

Its love,
when your brother messages you and asks did you reach home on time..

Love 💕 is not just a guy holding a girl and going around the city.

Love when you send a small msg to your friends to make them smile.

Luv 💕 is actually a name of “care”..💞

Luv u all as I care for You🤗💞🌹

Go To Yell …

An elderly couple had dinner at another couple’s house, and after eating, the wives left the table and went into the kitchen.
The two gentlemen were talking, and one said, ‘Last night we went out to a new restaurant and it was really great… I would recommend it very highly.’
The other man said, ‘What is the name of the restaurant?’
The first man thought and thought and finally said, ‘What is the name of that flower you give to someone you love?
You know…. The one that’s red and has thorns.’
‘Do you mean a rose?’
‘Yes, that’s the one,’ replied the man. He then turned towards the kitchen and yelled, ‘Rose, what’s the name of that restaurant we went to last night?’

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A woman went on vacation, leaving her husband behind. Before she left, she told him to take extra special care of her cat.The next day she called her husband and asked if the cat was all right.
Her husband said: The cat just died.
She burst into tears and said: How could you be so blunt? Why couldn’t you have broken the news gradually! Today, you could have said that it was playing on the roof; tomorrow, you could have said that it fell off and had broken its leg; then on the third day, you could have said that the poor thing had passed away in the night. You could have been more sensitive about the whole thing. By the way, how is my mom?
Husband: She is playing on the roof.

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Words can be twisted into any shape. Promises can be made to lull the heart and seduce the soul. In the final analysis, words mean nothing. They are labels we give things in an effort to wrap our puny little brains around their underlying natures, when ninety-nine percent of the time the totality of the reality is an entirely different beast. The wisest person is the silent one. Examine his actions. Judge him by them.

Hare Krishna 😊🙏

First lesson

I got on to the bus. Seeing the crowd inside, I was upset. There was no place to sit. Just then, a person vacated his seat.The man standing next to the vacant seat could have sat there, but instead he offered the seat to me.

At the next stop, the same thing happened again. He gave his seat to another. This happened 4 times during the entire journey. The man looked like a normal worker, returning home after a long day at work…

At the last stop when all of us got off, I spoke to him.

“Why were you giving your seat to another person every time you got a vacant seat?”
His answer took me by surprise.
“I haven’t studied much in my life nor do I know many things. I don’t have much money either. So I don’t have anything much to give to anyone. That’s why I do this everyday. It is something I can do easily.

“After working all day I can stand for a little longer. I gave my seat to you and you said thank you. It gave me satisfaction that I did something for someone.
I do this daily & feel I am contributing in some way.
I go back home refreshed & happy every day that I gave something to someone.”

I was speechless!

Wanting to do something for someone on a daily basis is the ultimate gift.

This stranger taught me a lot –
How easy it is to be rich from within!

Beautiful clothes, lots of money in the bank account, expensive gadgets, accessories & luxuries or even educational degrees – may or may not make you rich and happy; but a small act of giving is enough to make you feel rich & Happy everyday

Once up on a Time

Though the story is about shrikalahasti, i dont think this carving is not in srikalahasti temple. Looks like its in lepakshi or some other place. Howev##er, let me give you some inputs about the story.

This represents ShriKalahasti (Spider, Snake, Elephant) and bhakta kannappa who offered his eye to lord shiva when his one of the eyes was bleeding. So the name of the temple is Shrikalahastishwara temple and the town is named after this..This town is just 45 km from the world famous Tirumala Tirupati Devastanam of Lord Venkateswara swamy. An interesting and hidden secret is, shrikalahasti swamy is one of the oldests diety in the world. Even much older than TTD. Kalahatiswara was worshipped at this place by Brahma during all four Yugas.

The swamy originally was Karpoora Lingam. But on the request of Vayu deva, it has become a Vayu Lingam. Suras, Asuras, Garuda, Gaandharvas, Kinneras, kimpurushas, Siddhas, Saadhvis, humans and others will worship this Lingam”.

There are several other legends connected to the glory of the temple. Prominent among them is of Parvati who was cursed by Shiva to discard her heavenly body and assume the human form. To get rid of the above curse Parvati did a long penance here. Pleased with her deep devotion Shiva again recreated her body – a hundred times better than her previous heavenly body and initiated various mantras including the Panchakshari. Consequent to this, Parvati gained fame and came to be known as Shiva-Gnanam Gnana Prasunamba or Gnana Prasunambika Devi.

This is called Kasi of South. Like in Kasi, Srisailam, this is very good for all the tantras particularly all bhairava tantra.

Ghanakala, Mayura, Chandra and Devendra were also freed from their curses after taking bath in the river Swarnamukhi and praying at Srikalahasti. To Bhakta Markandeya, Shiva appeared in Srikalahasti and preached that a Guru alone could make esoteric teachings and, therefore he is Brahma, Vishnu and Maheswara.

This is the only temple in India which remains open during Solar and lunar eclipses, while, all other temples are closed.This temple is famous for Rahu-Kethu pooja. It is believed that performing this pooja will ward the people from astrological effects of Rahu and Kethu.

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Cut throat competition

Nearby, a building construction work was going on.

Lots of poor labourers were working there and their small children used to hold onto one another’s shirt and play “train-train”.

Someone would become the engine and others would become bogies

Every day these children used to take turns becoming the engine and bogies …

But there was one small boy wearing only a half pant who used to hold one small green cloth in his hand and become the guard daily.

So once I went to him and asked him ..”beta, don’t u also wish to become an engine or a bogie some time ?

He softly replied ..” Sir , I don’t have a shirt to wear so how will the other children catch me to make the train?

I could see the slight wetness in his eyes..

But It gave me a lesson…. he could have cried and sat at home a abused his parents for not affording to buy him a shirt.

But instead he chose another way to play and enjoy himself..

In life, we don’t get all things we desire and we keep complaining ..

I dont have a bike, I don’t have car , I don’t have this or that etc…

Life is like that ….we need to make it beautiful and be grateful for what we have ..

HAVE AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE
Have a Great Day

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One night stand

Sometimes in the dark of the night,
I visit my conscience
To see if it is still breathing,
For its dying a slow death
Every day.

When I pay for a meal in a fancy place.
An amount which is perhaps the monthly income
Of the guard who holds the door open.
And quickly I shrug away that thought,
It dies a little.

When I buy vegetables from the vendor,
And his son “chhotu” smilingly weighs the potatoes,
Chhotu, a small child, who should be studying at school.
I look the other way
It dies a little.

When I am decked up in a designer dress,
A dress that cost a bomb
And I see a woman at the crossing,
In tatters,trying unsuccessfully to save her dignity.
And I immediately roll up my window.
It dies a little.

When I buy expensive gifts for my children,
On return, I see half clad children,
With empty stomach and hungry eyes,
Selling toys at red light
I try to save my conscience by buying some, yet
It dies a little.

When my sick maid sends her daughter to work,
Making her bunk school
I know I should tell her to go back.
But I look at the loaded sink and dirty dishes,
And I tell myself that is just for a couple of days
It dies a little.

When I hear about a rape
or a murder of a child,
I feel sad, yet a little thankful that it’s not my child.
I can not look at myself in the mirror,
It dies a little.

When people fight over caste creed and religion.
I feel hurt and helpless
I tell myself that my country is going to the dogs,
I blame the corrupt politicians,
Absolving myself of all responsibilities
It dies a little.

When my city is choked.
Breathing is dangerous in the smog ridden metropolis,
I take my car to work daily ,
Not taking the metro,not trying car pool.
One car won’t make a difference, I think
It dies a little.

So when in the dark of the night,
I visit my conscience
And find it still breathing
I am surprised.
For, with my own hands
Daily, bit by bit, I kill it, I bury it.

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About 6 months ago, my neighbor asked us if we wouldn’t mind sharing our Wi-Fi password. We decided to give it to him because it wouldn’t cost us anything extra, and because we got along with him. Yesterday, as I was getting out of the car, the neighbor was at his door, getting ready to come outside. I stopped to talk a bit as he held the door open. He happily told me he now had Netflix. At that, jokingly I said: ′′I work hard, I barely have time to watch TV, but, if you could lend us your password to watch some shows, we’d appreciate it “. A voice was heard in the distance, inside the house. It was his wife, ′′We can’t give the password to them, because I’m the one who pays the bill and I can’t share it.” The man apologized and I said it was no problem. We kept talking about other things, and as I left, he stayed working outside. When I happened to look outside a little while later, I noticed the man’s wife come outside. She seemed very nervous and upset. They both went into the house. After a few minutes, he and his wife came to my door to tell me the Wi-Fi password wasn’t working anymore. I looked at them and said, ′′ I changed my password, because it’s me paying the bill and I can’t share it “. The wife turned red and tried to say something, but I said, ′′Ma’am, I have my network and you have your Netflix, everything is fine and everyone is happy”. They turned around and left. They never spoke to me again.


This story isn’t mine, but here’s the lesson I learned from it:

  • Friendship must be mutual.
  • Love must be mutual.
  • Affection must be mutual.
    In 2020 I intend to return silence with silence, absences with absences, affection with affection, friendship with friendship and loyalty with loyalty. No more one-sided feelings. Feelings must be mutual.

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